Imaging situation. You talk to your boss. And he asks you if you are willing to work on Saturday. You had some plans for your Saturday but you don’t want to disappoint your boss, do you? You agree. You stay on Saturday and you are frustrated. However you prove to yourself that it’s not your fault.
Can you recognize this situation? If yes then you should realize a few things. First – it was actually your fault. Second – you lied to yourself. And third – you disappointed your boss.
Now let’s look at this situation from different angles. First question – why did you agree in the first place? The answer is simple – you didn’t want to upset your boss. But would the boss be upset? Did the boss say he would fire you or decrease your salary? Did your boss say you that you were the only candidate? You had assumptions. You made decision based on this assumptions (which all may be wrong).
But there is more. The boss actually wanted to pick another person. He wanted to pick Jack. He was thinking about him. But here is you. You said yes. You’ve disappointed your boss! How could you do that to him?!
And the last one. A cherry on the pie. You said you wanted to do this work. But you didn’t. You betrayed your soul! Well that’s wrong. That’s a sin. You should go to a church now.
On a serious note it’s important to realize that making a negative decision and saying ‘no’ is a very natural thing. Same as your boss you may have things which are important to you and it’s perfectly fine to rise your concerns. To say even more some people expect and even want you to say ‘no’.
In fact whatever you say to your boss may cause frustration. If you say yes you will be concerned about afterhours work. If you say no it may disappoint the boss. You will be frustrated anyway. So why say the lie? Think and do like orders your heart and common sense.
